People On Twitter Are Sharing The Things They Learned In Therapy
Lots of people crack jokes about how all men need to go to therapy or about how everyone in the world should go see a therapist, but is it really a joke?
The problem is even if you want to go, you might not be able to, for whatever reason. Maybe you're not quite comfortable lying back on a comfy couch and spilling your trauma to a stranger. Twitter has you covered!
Share Your Words Of Wisdom
Rather than having all of us spend time going to therapy ourselves, why not benefit from what other people have learned?
It's like they're getting double for their money by sharing it with others.
Boundaries Aren't There For People To Leap Past Them
If the people in your life are getting mad at you over the boundaries that you set, they shouldn't be in your life.
Anyone who deserves to be there would respect you.
Don't Let The Waves Drown You Either
There's no need to chastise yourself for whatever you're feeling in the moment, because realistically, that's only going to make you feel worse.
Just accept whatever it is and allow it to roll past you.
Focus On Reality, Not Possibility
As much as you would like to focus on all the wonderful things someone could bring to the relationship, you have to look at what they actually are bringing.
Don't get sucked in by a possibility that may have never become a reality.
Easier Said Than Done
You don't have to change what you want for yourself, you just have to remember that not everyone is going to live up to that.
Keep searching for the people who meet your standards, but expect that some will fall short.
Learn To Live With Uncertainty
If you spend all your time and energy trying to control everything or only make decisions where you know what the outcome of it will be, you're going to be left with nothing to show for it.
Uncertainty doesn't have to be a bad thing.
Happiness Has To Start With You
If you don't have a good relationship with yourself and the confidence to know what you bring to the relationship, you're never going to be happy with another person.
You can't find happiness if you rely on it only coming from someone else.
Asking For Help Takes Strength
The idea that asking for help is a sign of weakness is doing more damage to you than you realize.
If you're asking the right people in your life for help, they'll never make you feel ashamed about it.
Everyone Is Focused On Themselves
People aren't actually paying attention to what you're doing as much as you think they are, because they're all busy paying attention to themselves.
They're busy focusing on the things they think they've done wrong.
Conversations Don't Need To Be Confrontational
There are ways to bring up your own feelings or to talk about something difficult with someone without it needing to be a confrontation.
Focus on having a conversation, not a confrontation.
The Cycle Just Keeps Going
The reason it's called a cycle is that it's hard to break out of the repetitive patterns, even when we know it's not a good thing for us.
All you can change is what you do in any situation, not what anyone else does.
Sensitivity Doesn't Have To Be A Negative
To some people, sensitivity may be viewed as a weakness, but you can reframe that narrative!
If you want to be a sensitive person who cares about the feelings of others, why is that bad?
Compassion Can Be Taken Advantage Of
Being compassionate isn't a bad thing, but letting someone take advantage of that compassion isn't good.
Be aware of your own habits or feelings that could lead you to certain people who aren't worthy.
"No" Doesn't Need Further Explanation
"No' doesn't need to be treated like a bad word.
It's a full sentence that doesn't require you to give a full explanation following it up to explain to someone why you're saying no.
It Doesn't Matter That All The Other Kids Are Doing It Too
Doing what is right is going to make you feel better about yourself than doing something wrong just because others are doing it.
Even if others say it's wrong, you know what's right.
It's Not Selfish To Put Yourself First
The only person who is guaranteed to be looking out for you is you.
You're allowed to be as "selfish" as you want when it comes to putting yourself first.
You Wouldn't Make A Cup Of Tea For The Enemy
It's a simple, easy way to think about this.
You wouldn't make a cup of tea for an enemy or someone you didn't like, so if you're making one for yourself, you're not the enemy.
Give Yourself Something To Look Forward To
Find something you enjoy doing and then be sure to make time for it.
Schedule out the moments or activities ahead of time so you always have something to look forward to.
A Bad Moment Is Just A Moment
Many of us are guilty of letting one bad moment ruin the rest of our day for us.
In those moments, we have to remind ourselves that it's just one moment. We don't have to let it poison everything else.
Believe People When They Show You Who They Are
One of the worst things you can do to yourself is to ignore the signs that someone is giving you about who they are.
Base your opinions on what people do, not just what they say, or what they apologize for.
