People Share What It Was Actually Like To Marry Their “If When We’re 40 And We’re Both Single” Person
Let's be honest, we've all made a proclamation of love to one of our best friends in a moment of weakness over a sticky bar table or a pint of Ben & Jerry's. If you two are both riding the single train hard by the time you're 40 you're going to get hitched. What's there to lose? It's not actually going to happen right?
Well, no. Here are some people who took to Reddit to share their experiences of marrying their "40 and single" person and it's across the board nothing like we'd ever expected. Just like the dinosaurs in Jurassic Park, love really does find a way.
Meet me at Coachella, babe
This is a fated connection right here. It's like the rave king and queen version of those romance movies where the couple meets in Paris and fall in love. People definitely threw little rainbow beads instead of rice at their wedding.
The serial proposer???
This is either a cute story about how love conquers all, or a very clear sign this person needs to stop making these do or die promises to people. Or else this ten-year vow renewal is going to be incredibly awkward.
It sucks being the "safety valve"
Look, sometimes this whole thing hurts a lot for the person who's always going to be second best for whatever guy comes around. Cheers to this soldier who found love even after having to deal with all this emotional turmoil.
These high school sweethearts have the second-most memorable Easter miracle
This is honestly meant to be. It really is cute that people can find the love of their life in fricking high school. High school. Most guys at my high school ate bottlecaps for dares so I hope that's not the case with me.
Here's proof that a sad Facebook status can land you a wedding
Okay, we all judge the people hard who make these kinds of statuses on Facebook, but maybe we shouldn't'? Clearly something is working if she literally got a husband and kid out of it. Lemme just go update my status now.
This savage grandma had a plan B when her promise looked like it might come true
This grandma really is a cautionary tale about what happens when you make these kinds of promises... sometimes people follow through on them. And the only thing worse than being single is being married to someone who you hate, so just remember that next time you text your ex at 39.
Coffee shops aren't just for awkward first dates anymore—they're for decades-old friends
Life can really take a sweet turn. I'm so happy that these people have found each other and rediscovered their love even after two tough relationships came to an end. So don't give up on love, because it could be in front of you ordering a stupidly complicated drink at Starbucks.
The chills I just got when I read "marrying for love"
That's gotta feel really good knowing that your partner "married for love" and waited just for you to do that. That's definitely more meaningful than the cringe "you up?" texts I get at 2 am.
My tender little heart is genuinely breaking from this story about old friends... not lovers
This is the friendship alternative for people who aren't quite ready to commit to marrying their BFFL. It's so heartwarming to read about people dedicating themselves to taking care of each other because that's truly what friends are for.
This is from a literal script of a Hallmark movie
Friends separated by distance!! On and off relationships!! A Christmas reunion!! Love!! Family!! I'm sorry to all the other Hallmark plots, because this real-life love story has them beat.
If 30 gets moved to 27 that's a sign you need to be married already
This is honestly the sweetest thing that these two didn't want to wait until 30. That's a huge sign that they're meant to be... especially if they're friends during the period and keep trying to push the bar lower.
I started off sad but now I'm just more angry he dated her friend
This would really, really, really suck worse than dragging your inner thighs through a field of broken glass. I'm glad this person found their person to spend their life with because going to your ex-promise's wedding would be a tough one without the light at the end of the tunnel.
I knew there was a reason I get goosebumps playing PUBG with my boyfriend
Here's to long-distance working! Normally it doesn't and it actually hurts more than it's worth (both on your heart and wallet from all the train rides), but Skype and video games are always a cheap alternative to in-person talking.
Sometimes a memorable name is all the conversation spark you need
This is cute but also this is some excellent social strategy. People, if you're out there looking to land yourself a partner, change your last name to "Ruler of the Universe" and you'll get a person no problem.
Musical chairs except with divorce
Sometimes it's just not meant to happen, and it sucks but that's kind of the nature of these pacts. You could just be better orbiters than fiancées and at least that's totally normal on Instagram.
I can feel their fates colliding even if nothing has happened yet
If these two are constantly joking about it and seeing friends get together and break up... something tells me they're both thinking about it. But you know what, why wait? Sometimes it's worth taking the chance on love.
You can't just joke about marriage with a high school sweetheart
High school sweethearts are kryptonite to all of us sappy, sentimental people because those teenage feelings just come right back. Remember when you were 14 and fell in love with that dude from Chemistry with braces and a Neff beanie? Well, all he has to do is blink your way when you're 40 and you two will be engaged.
Five years is way too quick to pretend you didn't want it to happen
Five months is down to the wire, but I love this couple's dedication to the timeline they set out. They've got the date circled on their respective calendars and aren't afraid to set at least two phone alarms to get it done.
Sometimes it's really not you, it comes down to a preference thing
Sometimes roommates are just better, and we've quickly learned that all you need is a strong friendship in this world to support you and give you hope. Just make sure you lay down some strict dish-washing schedules because that will end people's relationships.
Sometimes it's not... romantic
The takeway here is don't marry your promise person just because of that and of what your kids say. It's a rough situation but I hope it didn't end like all the telenovas I've watched... because normally there's a plane crash involved.
