Serious Signs That He’s Going To Ghost You
Ghosting isn't a new thing, but it is a modern term. If you've ghosted a person before, you're probably familiar with the precursors. If not, continue reading so you won't be in the dark when it happens to you.
When a guy ghosts, he acts like you never existed, and it can be hard to ever hear from him again. Here are some of the most prominent signs that he's going ghost.
He's Obsessed At The Start
Be on the watch for guys who are too into it at the beginning, because that kind of passion burns out fast.
If he's acting head over heels on the first date, that could be a huge sign that you have a ghoster on your hands.
So Many Excuses
He can never be on time or always comes up with excuses as to why he can't do something.
This man isn't as invested as you hoped, so stay on your toes.
Acting Distant In Person
Please pay attention to the number of kisses and how much affection he gives you if he's acting strange lately.
If it's less than usual, and he seems a bit odd, this man might become a ghost soon.
He Doesn't Like Talking About Past Relationships
When he isn't willing to bring up past relationships, that's what you call "emotional cutoff." This trait feeds the idea that he can completely end relationships.
In short, he more than likely ghosted in the past and he's good at it.
He Compliments Too Much
You might think you found the one thanks to all the compliments he keeps pouring in, but they're just words.
This is intoxicating behavior, but you have to remember they're only phrases and words.
He Ditches You For His Friends
Early in the process, he should at least want to spend more time with you than with his friends.
If that isn't the case, he might be setting up his grand escape early.
Using Lazy And Non-Committal Language
"I'm looking for a relationship, but I'm not in a rush," is a phrase you can describe as non-committal language.
Paying attention to the language can save you future pain.
He's Secretive With Personal Details
Is it like pulling teeth from this man's mouth when you want to know some background details?
Some people do take extra steps to protect their personal information, but you'll know when it's fishy.
He's Silent When You Talk About The Future
I'm not talking about the future like years from now; I'm referring to this weekend. Bring it up and see what his first response is.
If he goes silent for some time, you know the drill.
Dry Texts
A dry text can be a response with no emotion or a one-word text.
If he used to respond with emojis and smiles, but not anymore, you might have to be careful.
He's A Narcissist
A narcissist only enjoys a relationship for what he can get out of it. They won't hesitate to discard things when they no longer serve their purpose.
Look out for these people.
Getting Between The Sheets Is His Main Mission
You two might have had some great dates at the start of this thing, but now all you do is close the door and shut off the lights.
If he only contacts you when he's in the mood, that's a clear sign.
He Sends Mixed Messages
If he's sending mixed messages, that means one day he'll talk like you're only friends and then the next he's all over you.
That's not the type of energy you need.
You Have A Feeling
Sometimes, your intuition is your best weapon. If you feel off about this person and it persists, don't discount your gut feeling.
It might be telling you something you need to know.
He Isn't Making Plans
If you two talk all day via the internet, yet he doesn't initiate making plans, you should keep him on the watch-list.
He could be only fishing for attention and using you for that.
He's Keeping You A Secret
It might not be what you want to hear, so you probably won't catch it if you aren't deliberately looking for this sign.
If you've yet to meet any close friends or family members, that's a huge warning sign.
You've Yet To Go On A Real Date
I'm not saying this is the end-all clue, but he's probably not taking you on a date because he plans on leaving soon.
Bring it up and see what happens.
He Loves His Phone But Doesn't Reply When You Text
Do you need someone to spell it out for you?
This is one of the clearest signs that he has no interest and more than likely plans on ghosting soon.
He's Done It Before
You probably won't get him to openly admit that he's done this in the past, but he might mention it on the back end of a conversation.
If he's done it once, he can do it again.
You've Been Ghosted Before
If you've been ghosted in the past, then you know best what to expect.
There are probably some minor things you could watch for to catch this phenomenon earlier, and you can help others with your knowledge.
PDA Is A Hard No
Anyone who saw the two of you in public would never know that you're a couple.
No one wants to see a couple display excessive PDA, but he doesn't even come near you when you're out together.
He Constantly Cancels Plans At The Last Minute
And even though he's canceling your plans 20 minutes before you were supposed to walk out the door to meet him, he doesn't offer up much of an apology or make an effort to reschedule.
If he doesn't respect your time or want to make time for you, he's likely on his way out.
He Warns You About His "Busy Schedule"
Out of the blue, he tells you that his schedule is going to be really busy for the next few weeks, months, or years for whatever reason.
He's basically pre-warning you that he's about to disappear.
He's Suddenly Only Available At Night
Do people still use the term "booty call"?
If he's suddenly only willing to hang out at night or make plans after dark, you've been downgraded, and soon he might disappear altogether.
You Never Have His Full Attention
You finally managed to get him to commit to some sort of plan and actually show up, but once you're together, he's still not completely focused on you.
Every text or call or notification distracts him.
He Doesn't Put Effort Into His Appearance
Most people at the beginning of a relationship are going to put in a lot of extra effort into their appearance because they want to put their best foot forward.
If he doesn't bother to dress nicely or even brush his hair, he probably isn't trying to impress you—and isn't planning to stick around.
He's Already Ghosted You Before
As much as you would like to believe in second chances or that people can change, if he's already ghosted you once, there's a high chance that he's going to do it again.
Unless he's given you good reason to believe he's changed, he probably hasn't.
The Conversation Is One-Sided
Every conversation you have is initiated by you, and even in person, you're the one who asks the questions or comes up with things to talk about.
He makes no effort to ask you questions or get to know you.
He Said He's Not Looking For Anything Serious
Chances are you're not going to be the one girl he decides to completely change for.
If he told you from the beginning that he's not looking for anything serious, he's going to disappear at the first sign that you might be getting attached (even if he makes it up in his head).
There's Never A Proper End To Your Conversations
Chances are, at the beginning of your relationship or talking stage, he would tell you goodnight or tell you when he was going to bed.
That doesn't happen anymore. The conversation just dies off or ends when he stops responding.
Being Ghosted Is The Worst
Being ghosted is what happens when someone you were dating suddenly disappears and you no longer hear from them. It hurts.
It feels disrespectful and makes you question if what you had was even real to begin with.
It's Really Hard To Process Something Like That
Processing something like that is difficult because it just feels so unnatural and cruel. How could someone do that?
It's obviously going to be difficult, and it's hard not to go into a downward spiral or lash out.
There Are Some Things To Do To Try And Make It Easier
There are some things that you can do to help yourself cope with the situation a little better and keep you in a healthier frame of mind.
This will make the healing process a bit less painful.
Accept That It's Happened
First and foremost, you just have to make peace with the fact that it's happened.
Denial will only get you so far, and admitting that it has happened is the first step to letting it go.
You Have To Believe You Didn't Do Anything Wrong
When someone ghosts you, it's because they're a jerk, not because you did anything wrong.
It's hard in that moment not to think that you pushed them to do it, but there is no excuse for it, and you didn't do anything to deserve that.
Be Gentle With Yourself
Anytime you're going through something that's upsetting, it's important that you do your best to be gentle with yourself.
You don't need to beat yourself up for not knowing better or blame yourself for what happened. Nothing good will come of that.
It's Cliché, But Try Not To Dwell On It
Even though it's so much easier said than done, try not to spend all your time and energy rehashing what happened.
It happened, it is what it is, and you need to focus your energy on moving on.
Resist The Urge To Message Him
This one is a big one. Don't message him.
You've probably messaged him a few times already and he hasn't answered, so it's time to leave it. You don't need to beg for anyone's attention.
Don't Post About It On Social Media
Don't go posting a bunch of stuff on social media about how he's a bad person.
You should for sure post some fire selfies and maybe a quote or two, but don't be sore about it all over your feed.
Block His Number
If you feel brave enough to do it, blocking his number will actually bring you a lot of peace.
It will make it certain that you're not going to hear from him, so you can stop waiting and start moving on.
Remove Him From Social Media
Taking him off your social media is a smart move as well.
You don't need to see what he's doing with his life, and you don't need another place that you could possibly reach out to him.
Talk About It With Your Friends
This one really goes without saying, but have a good chat or two with your friends about how you're feeling and what happened.
They'll be able to listen and support you in the way you need.
Don't Let It Scare You Away From Dating
It can feel really scary to go back out there and date after you've been hurt the way you have been.
It kind of changes the way you see the world and dating, but try not to let it. Just because one guy did it, that doesn't mean they all will.
In Fact, Get Back Out There
When you're feeling like you've put it behind you, don't be afraid to get back out there.
Even if it's just chatting with some guys on a couple of dating apps for a bit, it will help you.
Keep Taking Care Of Yourself
No matter how much you're hurting, it's important that you keep taking care of yourself.
Keep doing the things you do in the name of self-care...maybe even spend a little more time doing those things.
Don't Expect To Hear From Him
One of the worst things that you can do is think that at some point you're going to hear from him. You might.
But there is going to be no good that comes from sitting there and waiting for it to happen.
Try And Understand Why They Did It
When you're in a bit of a clearer state of mind, it might be helpful to try and objectively understand why they did it.
Have they had bad dating experiences? Are they just a narcissist who cares about no one other than themselves?
Create Your Own Closure
One of the hardest things about getting ghosted is the fact that you never really get any closure.
That's why you have to make it for yourself and make the ending the one that suits you best.
Make A Point Not To Ghost Someone
Being ghosted is the worst, right?
So, one of the best things you can do after being ghosted is to really make a point not to do it to someone else.
Above All, Remember This Too Will Pass
More than anything else, it's important to just trust the healing process and know that you are going to feel better and that this will pass eventually.
Just try not to make it harder in the moment than it needs to be.
