Subtle Signs He’s Not As Into You As He’s Letting On
So you started dating someone new and things seem to be going smoothly. If you're basing things on what he says, you're the best thing that's happened to him in a long time.
But can you really take his words at face value? Do your partner's actions actually match the things he's telling you?
There Are Subtle Signs You Can Watch For
There are some subtle signs that you can watch for to help you determine whether the person you're dating has the same intentions as you.
If you notice any of the following signs, it probably means he's not feeling things as much as you are and it's best to ditch him now.
You Always Have To Start The Conversation
This isn't something you should directly keep score on, but it will start to get tiring if you're always the one who has to initiate a conversation.
If it always comes down to you sending the first message, DM, or making the first call, it likely means that he's not feeling it.
He Leaves You Out When He's Making Plans
If he's totally cool to make plans to go away every weekend, go to parties with his friends, and attend events, but never makes an effort to invite you, it's a major red flag.
He should be excited to do things with you and including you in making plans is one of the easiest ways to show that.
You Are Never Given A Choice Or Decision About What You're Going To Do
Anyone who has a "my way or the highway" type of personality is difficult to get along with.
If your man doesn't let you make decisions about the most basic things, like where to get dinner, or what movie to watch, take that as a serious warning and get out now. He can watch whatever he likes all by his lonesome.
He Avoids Using The Word "We" When He Talks About You
When you have been dating someone for a while, it shouldn't be hard for them to identify it as such when casually discussing you.
If he's all about "me, me, me" but can't bring himself to say "we" it's a good indication he doesn't see you two as a couple.
He Should Be Comfortable Talking About You Two As A Pair
For example, when talking to friends or family, if he says something like, "We really liked that movie," it's an easy way for him to show that he's thinking of you two as a pair.
If he says, "Oh, I saw that movie, it was good," it's a way for him to leave you out, even if you were a part of the experience.
He Leaves Your Name Out Of Stories
If he can't do something as basic as include your name when he's telling stories or recalling events that you were at, it's an obvious sign that he's all about his independence and individuality.
He could be a commitment-phobe, or just self-serving, but either way, it's not worth finding out.
He Hasn't Deleted His Dating Profiles
If someone is truly happy with you, they won't feel the need to continue looking to meet anyone else.
Even if he says he's "not active" on his dating apps but just hasn't gotten around to deleting them, he shouldn't have a fallback plan if he's really into you.
He's Still Flirting With Other People
If he was really as into you as he says, he would be doing everything possible to prove that.
Deleting dating apps from his phone would be one of the first steps to showing he was committed to you.
He Goes Radio Silent For Days Or Even Weeks
Everyone is living their own busy lives on their own schedule, but most people manage to do it while balancing work, life, and love.
If your guy can't manage to text you back or call you once every couple of days, it's probably because he's not that interested in making things work.
He Is Unreliable Most Times
A guy who is into you will respect your time by sticking to plans, showing up on time, or letting you know if anything is going to keep him from making a date.
If he can't bring himself to meet these very realistic expectations, he's not worth your time.
He's Immature When You Try to Talk About Your Feelings
When a guy dismisses you or tries to change the subject when you bring up something emotional, he's showing you he doesn't actually care about your feelings.
His actions will be very telling when you tackle subjects like your feelings or your relationship status.
Every Relationship Is Going To Take Some Work
Noticing these signs in a new relationship doesn't necessarily mean it's the end of the line for you two.
It could just mean that you have some communicating to do about what you both want out of the relationship. Still, if you felt like each one of these signs has shown up in your relationship at one point or another, it's best to bail now.
The Person You're Dating Should Be Feeling Things The Same Way You Are
Every relationship is going to have its good days and bad ones.
In the big picture, you should always feel that the person you're dating has the same commitment to the relationship as you do, even if he's saying something different.
