Things Women Do That Push Men Away
Love is complicated, and it's not like there's a way to guarantee that certain actions will attract guys while others will push them away. Still, there are some universal ways of behaving that guys are simply not receptive to. We're here to make you aware of them so the next time you find someone you like, you're also able to keep them.
Not Allowing Him To Have Friends That Are Women
The reality is that men and women can and should be able to be platonic friends. If you have a problem with it, it probably stems from your own insecurities and lack of confidence in both yourself and your relationship.
If they've never given you a reason to doubt them, then trust their choices in who they want to be friends with.
Overanalyzing His Every Word
If you trust your partner, then you should be able to give them a healthy amount of freedom to lead their own independent life.
Similarly, you should feel able to lead a separate life from your partner, one with your own hobbies and friends, without analyzing each component of it.
Relentlessly Chasing After him
There's no harm in knowing what you want and going after it. Yet, there comes a point where they have to also meet you halfway.
Not only do you deserve for them to put in as much effort as you, but it can also be overwhelming if you push past their comfort level.
Constantly Posting About A Lack Of Good Men
It's natural to feel disappointed and hurt from past experiences. It's another to assume that every single man will make the same mistakes.
He might think that there's no point in trying if you've already made up your mind. Or you might project someone else's mistakes onto him before he's made any.
Feeling The Need To Act A Certain Way In The Beginning
Some women will feel the need to only act sweet in the beginning, only for their real sassy personalities to catch him off guard later on. The right man will fall for you for your sass.
It can be confusing for him if he finds you have been hiding parts of yourself. He might even start to wonder what else you're hiding.
Talking Down To Him
Just like you don't want him to expect you to do his laundry like his mother did, you don't want to speak to him like he's a child when you're upset at him.
Rather than reprimand him when he does something wrong, talk to him about it and about how it made you feel.
Not Giving Him Enough Space
Naturally, when you're attracted to someone, you can't help but want to gravitate towards them. This doesn't mean that you need to spend your every waking moment together.
You need time apart to not only miss each other, but also to have time for your own activities and growth, or even just to clear your mind.
Letting Your Self-Esteem Dictate The Relationship
It's hard to feel super confident all the time, and no one expects that of you. While it's okay to have down days and need support, you don't want your whole worth to need to be validated by him.
A lack of self-esteem can be worked on so that it doesn't create issues and dictate the relationship.
Making Him The Center Of Your Emotional Well-Being
It's a lot of pressure to put all your happiness in one person, and you shouldn't need to.
While loving someone takes over the majority of your mind, and it's important to be able to rely on one another, you don't want to be each other's only source of support. The risk is creating a toxic codependent relationship.
Being Completely Self-Absorbed
In the age of social media, so much of our time is spent posting and liking others' posts that we risk evaluating our own self-worth based on other people's number of likes and comments.
Be careful to not give too much of your time and attention to selfies over prioritizing quality time on a date with him.
Being Hot And Cold
We all have our off days and bad moods, but exaggerated inconsistency will eventually get too confusing for him.
It's really hard for someone to keep up with a person who keeps changing their mind. If you're constantly on again then off again, you risk becoming a "never again" for him.
Wanting Too Much At Once
A man can only provide you with so much. It's easy to get wrapped up in your needs and set a standard that he doesn't know how to attain.
If he constantly feels like he just can't measure up or be enough for you, he might just give up after a while.
You Worry Too Much About Him
Even if you care a lot about him, you need to accept that he's a grown man who should be able to take care of himself.
He'll never accept help or want to change if it doesn't come from him first or if he doesn't ask for it. He might instead take your willingness to help as being overbearing.
You're Often Nagging Him
Nagging doesn't motivate a man to do what you want. In fact, it makes him get defensive and resistant. He starts associating your nagging with what you're asking him, discouraging even more from doing it.
Eventually, the nagging becomes too much and he will start to associate it with you.
Being Overly Dramatic
It's one thing being a drama queen to be funny, and it's another to genuinely act or feel like every little inconvenience is the end of the world.
This might worry him into thinking that you're unable to handle conflict. If you're distraught because you missed the bus, how are you going to handle your relationship?
Fishing For Compliments
It's definitely a nice thing to be complimented by your man, but it'll only be genuine if it comes directly from them.
If you feel as though they're not noticing you enough, then that's an issue you can confront them about like an adult rather than try to push them to realize it themselves.
Comparing Him To Your Exes
While you may have a type based on your attachment style, each person is unique to themselves.
Even if they have similar traits, they deserve to be given a blank slate of their own and to have a chance to prove themselves to you. Would you want to be compared to his exes?
Acting Like You're Too Needy
While "being too needy" is often a stereotype that's taken out of context, it refers to a set of behaviors like calling too much, being too available, getting jealous, and wanting all of his time and attention.
This kind of behavior creates an unhealthy mindset and pressure. Too much of anything is never a good thing.
Repeatedly Questioning The Relationship
It's hard to know what's going on in someone else's mind, and the uncertainty that they're as invested as you are can be terrifying.
However, you often just have to let things play out as they should rather than attempting to predict every next step. If you're meant to be, it'll work. If you overthink it, you'll ruin it yourself.
Acting Passive-Aggressively
Men can't read your mind. If there's something bothering you, you need to literally spell it out for them.
If you choose to act passive-aggressively hoping you'll drop some hints, you'll create a hostile environment in which they'll get defensive and annoyed rather than apologetic because they don't understand what's going on.
