Things You’re Doing That Might Be Pushing Him Away
Say you're seeing someone and things started out great, but then they seem kind of distant and the space between you seems to be getting bigger and bigger. There can be a lot of reasons why this is happening, and sometimes it has nothing to do with you.
However, there are other things when it is something about yourself you need to address, so it's good to know what some things are that might be pushing your new man away.
You're Kind Of A Bummer To Be Around
No one likes to spend time around someone who is a bummer. We're all allowed to have bad days, but make sure that they are just that, days, not every day. Make sure you're also being honest about those days so that you're communicating clearly.
You're Brining All Kinds Of Drama
No one likes a drama queen! You can't invite someone new into your life and expect them to dive right into all the drama you have. Yes, involve them in your life, but if you're someone who thrives on drama with friends, at work, and in your relationships, don't be surprised if that's off-putting.
You Want To Move Way Too Fast
Don't stick around with someone who isn't going to commit to you the way that you want, but also don't be in such a rush to make a serious relationship when you're just getting to know one another.
You're Acting A Bit Clingy
You have to make sure that there is room to breathe in your relationships. If you're taking over his life, demanding all of his time, and asking him to hang out constantly, he might find that off-putting.
You Text Him Constantly
People live their own lives, OK? There is no need for you to be keeping tabs on the person you're dating at all times. If you're talking constantly, then what are you going to have to catch up on?
You Expect Him To Read Your Mind
It can be tempting to think that if your man really knows you, then they should know what you want and what is wrong, but that isn't fair. No one is a mind reader, and people are complicated!
You Say "Yes" To Everything
On the other side of things, being too available and saying yes to everything can be somewhat of a turn-off. It's important that you still assert yourself and your personality.
You Bring Up Your Ex A Lot
There is a time and a place to talk about your ex, and it will come up. But if you're bringing up your ex constantly and even comparing this relationship to that one, it's probably not something that they enjoy.
You Give Him A Lot Of Deal-Breakers
You're just a walking list of deal-breakers. If they do this, it's over. If they do that, it's over. This is exhausting, and no one is going to want to be surrounded by that for too long.
Things Always Have To Go Your Way
If you're bossy and like things a certain way, then you're probably not very willing to make compromises. That's fine, to a point. As long as you're not the only person making the decisions.
You Guilt Trip Him A Lot
Guilt-tripping someone is one of the meanest things that you can do. No one who does something because they are feeling guilty is going to enjoy doing that thing. If your man is pulling away, this might be why.
You're Not On The Same Page About Intimacy
Obviously, sex is not the most important thing in a relationship, but it does matter. If your needs are super different in the bedroom, then it could be what is causing a rift.
You're Trying To Change Him
Does anyone like feeling like they're not enough? No, they don't. So, think to yourself, if you're in a relationship with someone who you keep trying to change, are they going to want to stay in that relationship?
You're Putting In Way More Effort Than He Is
It can be a turn-off to see someone be overly eager. This one is tough, because you want the person you're with to know you're interested in them, but you don't want to smother them.
You're Being Too Independent
There is nothing wrong with being an independent woman. However, when you're in a relationship, you have to let the other person into your life, and if you've put your walls up so high they can't get in, someone might see that as a sign to move on.
You Act Kind Of Immature
Being silly is fun, and there is a time and place for it. However, make sure that you're not acting immature, because someone who wants a grown-up relationship isn't going to like that. They'll probably find a reason to bail on your next hangout.
You're Super Messy
Look, no one is going to be clean and tidy all the time. That being said, there is something to be said about putting effort into yourself and your living space. If your man is seeming distant or maybe doesn't want to go to your place, ask yourself: when was the last time you tidied?
You Purposefully Act Dumb
Be smart, be independent, and be amazing! You are all of those things, and if you're purposefully trying to dumb yourself down to impress him, he might notice and not like that at all.
You're Too Self-Conscious
We all have our hangups, but you have to trust that person you're with is into you and they see and know about these "flaws" you feel that you have.
You Don't Appreciate Him Enough
You should both feel like you're appreciated in your relationship. If you're not making sure that your man is feeling taken care of, he's probably not going to want to spend the time and energy he has on a relationship.
