Women Are Sharing How They — And Others — Feel About Their Engagement Rings And It’s Rough
Ladies, it's time to talk engagement rings. You know, that ring you're going to wear for (hopefully) the rest of your life and have to look at every day from here to eternity.
In an ideal world, you get the ring you've always dreamed of, everyone loves it and says nice things about it and that's the end of the story. Unfortunately, people sometimes feel the need to make negative comments, or maybe you're the one that doesn't like the ring... It happens okay!
If You Don't Have Anything Nice To Say...
Can you imagine having the audacity to make a negative comment about a literal stranger's engagement ring? That's nice that you hate it Jenny but it doesn't actually matter what you think as long as this woman likes it.
Some "Friend" You Are
This is a tough situation because it's easy for us to say "oh your friend's opinions don't matter" (which is true) but it's hard to deal with if they're openly ragging on your ring. Eventually, they'll get over it, but also maybe consider telling them to mind their own beeswax.
Mother Doesn't Always Know Best
Even if you don't love the ring, sometimes you need to pick your moment. Saying no in front of your family right as he was proposing because you didn't like the ring might not have been the best move, but at least you got the ring you wanted... Best of luck with your mother-in-law.
Thanks For The Support Bro
Okay, everyone with a brother knows that it's their job to keep you tough — they can't always be nice to you or you'd go soft. But this might have been too far.
Mom You're Not Helping
We all know you need to be specific when it comes to giving your boyfriend or future hubby instructions, but how much more specific can you be? Maybe it's safer to just send him that Pinterest board you've been cultivating since the 11th grade.
Wedding Invitation? Revoked
Sounds like it's time to get yourself a new friend if this is how she's going to act. We can all guess who probably isn't going to be getting that coveted 'Maid of Honor' title.
She Still Said Yes!
We all know men aren't great at following instructions. Maybe he just got a little too excited or overzealous at the jeweller. Lucky for you, rings can be returned or altered! It's not the end of the world — wait a couple days then have a conversation about going to look at rings together.
Age Is Just A Number
Since when does age have anything to do with how much you'll appreciate an engagement ring? If she's young that just means she has more years ahead of her to appreciate it.
Green-Eyed Monster
Sounds to us like someone is feeling a little bitter... Maybe her husband understands his second wife better than his first and knew she wouldn't want a traditional ring. You don't know anything about their marriage Janet!
Work Your Way Up To Kim K's Ring
Just because you didn't get a "real" diamond right away, it doesn't mean that all hope is lost! Maybe he needed more time to save up, but wanted to make the gesture, so he knows how you feel. You have the rest of your life to work up to the Real Housewives-worthy rock without your hubby bankrupting himself.
Excuse Me?
Definitely not the first thing that's supposed to come out of a person's mouth when they show you their engagement ring. That'd be like seeing a newborn baby and immediately asking "how long were you in labor for?" The cost is not the point!
Regifting Is Not The Solution
We get that you don't like the ring, but regifting it to your mother in law that helped picked it out is definitely not the right thing to do here. That's just going to start a passive-aggressive war that will continue until your children are going off to college.
You Have One Option Here
Your only possible solution is to go buy a new ring, swap it out for the old one, then hope he doesn't notice when he proposes. Sorry, but that's the only option at this point.
Family Heirloom Gone Wrong
You could try playing the "it has too much sentimental value, I don't feel comfortable wearing it everyday" card, or go with that great policy everyone is always talking about: honesty. Go ring shopping together for one you like more, then wear that one for special occasions or holidays!
Shake It Off
As a wise woman once said, shake it off! People are always going to find something to hate on, but if you love it then who cares? They can make their jaded comments to someone that doesn't have a beautiful sapphire engagement ring.
This Doesn't Make You Shallow
There is a lot of pressure on men to pick out the right ring. Maybe your fiance was nervous and just went for something that the jeweler told him was a "classic." If you don't like it, don't spend the next 40 years hating it — tell him now.
Keep Your Pity To Yourself
You shouldn't feel like you have to defend your ring to other people, especially if it's exactly what you wanted. Let your future hubby know you love it despite what other people are saying, and start planning your wedding!
The Limit Does Not Exist
Since when is there an age limit on when to get married? Whether you get married at 25 or 75, your age literally does not matter. But also, wouldn't most people say 30 is perfectly normally age to get married?
In The House Of The Lord!
Some people don't know how to keep their comments to themselves, and to actually laugh at another woman's engagement ring is ridiculous. Don't ruin this woman's engagement with your negativity.
Your Friends Aren't The Ones Who Have To Wear It
There are also women who don't actually care if their ring is a "fake" or not because they just want the marriage. It can be hard to deal with other women's opinions on your ring, but if you're happy with it that's all that matters!
