Influencer Shares The Best Ways To Give HIM Butterflies And We’re Taking Notes
If pop culture has taught us anything, it's the fairly foolproof plan that any relatively good-looking dude can follow to "get the girl." Cue Chad Michael Murray with a boombox outside a bedroom window, Cliff making Torrance a mixtape in "Bring It On," Ashton Kutcher in "No Strings Attached" delivering an alternative bouquet, or Noah sending 365 letters in "The Notebook." You get the picture.
Lesser discussed in pop culture are the tips and tricks for how to get the guy. It's freaking 2021 after all and women are taking the lead in the dating game now more than ever. Keep reading to find out the best ways to give the man in your life all the butterflies.
This Dating Advice Can Help You Learn How To Give Him Butterflies
People online are sharing their dating advice to help anyone on the hunt for a summer romance, or even a long-term boyfriend.
One social media star named Spencer Barbosa created a video to share the ways that she says will "innocently" give any guy butterflies.
Maintain Eye Contact And Compliment Him
Spencer's number one rule for flirting? Eye contact. She says: "It's scary, it's intimidating, it kinda sucks. But it shows confidence and it makes a connection." It's important to make him break eye contact first in the early stages.
Another tip is to give him short, simple compliments. She says that "guys never receive compliments. Guys need compliments. So we are going to give him a compliment. Except it's gonna be short, sweet, and we're gonna catch him off guard."
"You Look Good Today. Your Hair Looks Really Good."
The examples Spencer provides are: "You look good today. Your hair looks really good." With a focus on not saying more than you need to.
Some other examples could be: "I really like your shirt, it looks nice on you." Or if you can somehow compliment his interests or accomplishments, that's even better. For instance, "I think you have great taste in movies," or, "I'm really impressed with your artwork."
Holding Hands Is Lame
Spencer's next tip is to hold his arm (specifically the bicep area) instead of his hand. She says: "Holding his hand is lame, okay? We're not holding hands. We're holding his arm."
Lastly, she says "When you're kissing him, you're gonna pull him in by his clothes. So innocent, but it's so hot."
Watch Spencer's Clever Description Of Her Best Flirting Tips To Use On Guys
You can watch Spencer's full original video here. She finishes the clip by promising more advice in a "Part 2."
If you're still after a few more flirty ways to give the guy in your life butterflies, keep reading.
Touch His Face While Cuddling
Spencer's follow-up video highlights a few more of her favorite flirting tips to give a guy those classic butterflies.
First, when cuddling, use a free hand to touch his face or neck area. Tracing or tickling his collarbone and jawline will definitely get his attention.
Make Him Feel Extra Funny, Especially Around His Friends
Men generally get a confidence boost when people find their sense of humor relatable or comedic. Who doesn't honestly? It feels good to have people laugh at your jokes.
Spencer suggests making your man feel extra funny in order to induce those butterflies. But she cautions: "Now, don't go overboard, he's not a standup comedian. But like a little laugh, and tough his arm, yeah."
Be Bold At Every Opportunity—Playing It Safe Is Boring
Spencer's advice continues: "Playing it safe is boring! Be bold! Show the confidence. Say things like 'prove it, make me, and I dare you' and his belly will be a butterfly sanctuary."
Realistically, her advice can be applied to a lot of areas of life. If you can practice constantly projecting confidence in your own social and family life it will be much easier to do when it comes time for dating.
Make Him Feel Missed When You're Apart (Even If You're In The Same Room)
Spencer suggests using this last trick sparingly, saying, "If you're at a gathering and you're across the room, just wave him to come over, and then when he comes, just be like 'I just missed you.'"
It's a simple act that shows how much you enjoy being in his company.
Things You Should Never Point Out On A Guy
Spencer also compiled an inclusive list based on comments from her videos highlighting the things that people should never point out about a guy.
That includes anything that's not positive about his hair, his height, his car, his weight, or his skin. Men are more sensitive than people give them credit for, and they have their own beauty standards they're constantly trying to meet whether they admit it or not.
How To Properly Compliment A Guy
In another video installment, Spencer outlines the best compliments that you can offer a guy. She says that guys often get made fun of a lot more than they get complimented and it can affect their self-esteem. These compliments can be offered to a guy you're interested in, or just genuinely as a friend.
Her first example is: "I love your confidence." Complimenting a guy's confidence can help reinforce that he's not being stereotypically "cocky."
Tell Him That You Love His Work Ethic
This is an easy way to compliment a guy on something other than his appearance, while also recognizing the work he puts in for his job—whatever that may be.
A few more examples include: "You are so smart," "I love talking to you," "You're so easy to talk to," and, "You're hilarious/one of the funniest people I've met."
Complimenting Guys Doesn't Have To Be Limited To Flirting
As Spencer points out multiple times, men are far less likely to receive genuine compliments about their appearance or efforts to look nice.
If you are one of the people who takes the time to compliment the men in your life, you can start by saying, "Hey, I'm not hitting on you I just want to let you know I think you have really great eyes or a perfect smile." It can still be a genuine compliment that makes someone feel good, even if you are not trying to give them butterflies.
Compliment The Men In Your Life!
On that note, remember to compliment the men in your life whenever you get a chance. Within reason, of course, we don't need any extra-inflated egos around here.
Just kidding. Men are sensitive and emotional in many ways as well, even if they don't want to admit it sometimes. It never hurts to throw a few nice words toward your brothers, fathers, cousins, partners, or whoever, and let them know you're proud of whatever it is they do.
