Signs Your Man Is The High-Maintenance One In The Relationship
"High-maintenance" is one of those phrases that gets tossed around when people are ending a relationship or trying to justify a breakup, and it's usually associated with women. An ex-boyfriend says you're too high-maintenance so he doesn't want to be with you, but it's not just a critique that can apply to women.
There are lots of men you might run into in the world of modern dating who could be considered far more high-maintenance than the woman who wants to spend half an hour doing her hair before going out to dinner.
He's A Gym Rat
Being healthy and taking care of your body is important, but so are rest days.
The man who spends three hours in the gym seven days a week can be a lot to handle.
He Throws A Fit If He Doesn't Get His Way
If something doesn't go as he planned or an unexpected wrench is thrown in his life, he doesn't handle it well.
Anything that veers off the course he planned out is going to lead to a tantrum.
He Expects You To Always Answer When He Calls
Whether it's a Snapchat, a text message, or a phone call, he wants to always be able to contact you.
It doesn't matter if your phone died or you were in a meeting and couldn't text him back until half an hour later. He wants you to answer immediately when he messages or calls.
He Dictates What You Can Or Can't Wear
It doesn't even necessarily need to be in a controlling or toxic way.
He cares a lot about his own appearance and the clothing he chooses to wear, so if something you choose doesn't work for him, you're going to have to change.
He Asks For Your Help Then Critiques You
He asks for your help around the house or asks you to pick up a few things from the grocery store on your way home from work, then critiques the brand you bought or the way you folded his shirts.
He thinks there's one right way to do things, and spoiler alert: it's his way. The right way is his way.
Asking A Lot Of Customer Service Workers
Whether they're at a five-star resort or the McDonald's down the street, they expect to be treated with perfect customer service wherever they go, even if their behavior isn't top-notch.
In their mind, if they're the customer, they're the priority.
Posting Everything You Do On Social Media
And not just posting Instagram stories or tweeting about what you're doing, but making sure that whatever he shares is absolutely perfect.
He is the person who takes 25 photos of their dinner, switching up the angles and making you hold your plate a certain way before you're allowed to eat.
He's Never Satisfied
Having a solid understanding of yourself, knowing what you like or dislike, or knowing what you want from a relationship is great, but sometimes it feels like it's impossible to please him no matter what you do.
He might know he has high standards, but if he doesn't compromise on them, then he's probably high-maintenance.
He Always Wants To Order An Uber
No, we're not out here hating on Uber. Obviously, you need a method of transportation to get where you need to go.
We're talking about the man who insists on driving somewhere or ordering an Uber for something that's only a five-minute walk away, simply because he doesn't want to walk or doesn't want to get dirty or whatever his reason is.
And You Wouldn't Catch Him Using Public Transportation
Uber is truly the most public form of transportation you'll ever catch him using.
If for some reason he has to go anywhere that would require him to take the bus or use public transportation, he won't be going.
His Home Always Has To Be Immaculate
Most of us are guilty of frantically cleaning up our homes 15 minutes before our friends or guests are set to arrive, but not your man.
Your man spends a lot of time and effort making sure that his home is in perfect condition; no faults to be found by anyone.
You Take The Same Amount Of Time To Get Ready
It's common in relationships that one person is usually faster to get ready than the other, but not in your relationship.
You never have to feel bad about keeping him waiting while you get ready, because he's still looking into the bathroom mirror too.
He Isn't Flexible With His Time
You are always the one who has to adjust your schedule to work around his; otherwise, you'd probably never spend any time together.
If someone in the relationship is going to be flexible, it'll be you.
Nothing You Do Is Low-Key
A casual night in on the couch watching Netflix? Oh no, we don't know her.
If you're having a date night, it's going to be something impressive, or at least something more than going for drinks at a local pub.
There's A Lot Of Pressure Around Presents
He might say that "anything you get me is going to be perfect" when you ask what he wants for Christmas, but you learned your lesson last year—you've got to go all out.
He's not as appreciative of small displays of affection or heartfelt, thoughtful gifts as others might be.
He Has Five Or More Pillows On His Bed
Yes, that's right. I said it. There is such a thing as too many pillows.
Being comfortable is critical for sleeping, but there has to be a line. How many pillows do you really need?
He Never Wants To Spend Time At Your Place
He likes to have the comforts of his home available to him at any time, so any nights that you spend together are going to be spent at his house.
Your house is too cold, too noisy, too messy, he doesn't like your roommates, it's too far from his office—take your pick of reasons.
He Gets Jealous If You Don't Spend Time With Him
Having your own friendships or hobbies separate from your relationship can help you succeed as a couple, but not in his eyes.
He gets jealous when you make plans on a Saturday night that don't include him, and you bet he's going to let you know that he's upset.
There Are No Expenses Spared
Materialism is a trait that is often seen in people who are considered high-maintenance. He wants to look great, feel great, and impress everyone at any given moment, and he spends the money to make that happen.
It doesn't matter if the cheaper shirt does the exact same thing, he's going to buy the more expensive one.
You're Always The One Apologizing First
"I'm sorry" is not a phrase that you hear come out of his mouth very often, and he's not the one to say it first after an argument.
The dynamic in your relationship is clear, and you're the one who apologizes first for things.
