Women, What Do You Wish Us Other Women Would Stop Doing Immediately?
A recent Ask Reddit post asked women what they want men to stop doing immediately and the thread went viral. Now there's a new Ask Reddit question posing a similar question, but this time, it's putting women under the microscope.
User EvilLord007 asked, "Women, what do you wish your fellow women would stop doing immediately?" Here are some of the top-rated answers.
Backhanded Compliments
It seems as if some people never left high school because when it comes to compliments, they still like to assume the role of "mean girl".
"I've got a coworker who compliments me and then looks at me like I’m crazy when I take it at face value. Lady you’re 40. I don’t think either of us [has] time for mental warfare. Be nice or don’t, but don’t play this backward high school game." - rizcriz
Policing Other Women's Life Choices, Especially When It Comes To Having Children
"I'm in my mid-20s and the amount of people that pull the whole, 'I had a house and husband/wife and had a kid on the way at your age. What are you doing??' is insane." - Deleted
"Anyone who's like 'Give it a chance!' when you already have zero interest needs a punch in the crotch (regardless of gender)." - Empty-Masterpiece242
Multi-Level Marketing Schemes
Another pet peeve for users is women who constantly push their multi-level marketing schemes onto others, blissfully ignorant of the fact that it's ultimately a scam and will drain your wallet.
"Are you sure? Because I've got some information I'd like to share with you..." - TimesThreeTheHighest
When Mothers Resent Their Daughters
"The song 'Milkman' by Pistol Annies is a good one about why I think some moms...somewhat resent their successful daughters. She didn't go out and really LIVE life, so even though she's proud of me, she resents me." - ElaborateTaco
"14-year-old me was being so happy for winning a silver medal in [a] state-wide competition. While my dad shares the joy of my success, lovely Mother Gothel just spit out like: 'You probably bought/bribe for the score, didn't you?' - Louise_Nguyen
Having Children In The Hopes It Will Save Their Failing Relationship
"Never lay eggs in a burning nest." - Karmek
"At the same time staying together 'for the children' doesn't help and I promise you the kids notice the problems. Now that I'm older I really wish my parents had just divorced it would've been easier to work through than all the f***ed up s**t that happened because they decided to stay together." - Mangobunny98
Competing With Other Women
Another issue users had is when women treat every life situation as a competition and see other women as their adversaries.
"You somehow always have it MUCH better (lifestyle-wise) than the other or MUCH worse (trauma-wise). Can't we exchange our experiences without the thought of competition behind it?" - KiviRinne
Claiming You're "Not Like Other Girls"
A "pick me girl" is a person who goes above and beyond to impress men by claiming she's "not like other girls", and that's something women want to put an end to.
"Putting down other women's hobbies or likes to get other people, especially men to see them as the 'better' woman. Or putting down other women in general. Like, let’s just be friends." - carlwheezersgf
Assuming You're The Better Parent
"Stop assuming there is one only way to parent and your way is automatically the best. Also please stop assuming that being a woman automatically makes you a better parent than a man." - rowenaravenclaw0
"Nothing hurts me more than when I try to make a decision for my daughter, and my wife overrules it because she's 'her mother'…as if I’m not her father." - You-DiedSouls
Public Bathroom Hygiene
You're out in public running errands when you need to go use the bathroom. But when it comes to the cleanliness of these bathrooms, it's something many women said leaves something to be desired.
"If you hover, wipe your goddamn mess up! Stop being a nasty person when in a public restroom. No one wants to clean up after you and you should be grown enough to know to clean up after yourself." - GlumAsparagus
Double Standards For Sexual Assault/Harassment
"I saw a video where a woman went to Disneyland and touched Gaston inappropriately. Understandably, he broke character and told her to leave. Some women were saying things like 'oh it's no big deal, Gaston probably liked it'.
You can't say you want equality for men and women but then react this way when a woman sexually harasses a man. It's unacceptable whether you're a man or woman." - throwawaypatien
Being Threatened By Confident Women
Another issue women have is when a woman claims to be supportive of "female empowerment" but then proceeds to shame any woman they deem "overconfident".
"It's always women empowerment until they’re threatened by that woman." - Lavendiana
Invalidating Same-Sex Relationships
Another issue was women in bisexual or same-sex relationships feeling belittled by their straight female friends.
"Assuming I'm into them when they find out I'm a lesbian. My straight friends also tend to say I'm lucky when they're annoyed with their boyfriends. It's kinda alienating and hurts my feelings but I can't really express why."
Inserting Yourself Into Another Woman's Family Planning
Family planning is a big decision for any woman, but the reality of infertility or miscarriage is a problem for many.
"Stop telling me that I should have another child because 'he needs a sibling', 'you're not getting any younger' or 'you would be a great mom of two'. Please stop, I'm trying, I’ve tried for four years now and I’ve cried many days and many nights." - ScaredKitten
Backstabbing Your Best Friends
No one is meaner than a teenage girl, but many users said when it comes to turning on their best friends for perceived wrongdoings or gossiping behind their backs, that's a behavior people need to outgrow.
"Gossiping or feeling jealousy towards another woman because of her own insecurities." - AdOut_rageous
Romanticizing Mental Illness For Attention
Mental illness is something that's touched the lives of many people, and it's often a painful experience, especially when someone is suffering in silence. But many women say that using it for attention is going too far.
"Glorifying/glamourizing mental illness for views, likes, karma, attention or whatever. Literally f**k you in particular." - Mariella
Creating Unrealistic Beauty Standards
From plastic surgery to Instagram filters, sometimes what you see on social media isn't the truth, and that was one of the biggest pet peeves for women.
"Doing heavy plastic surgery/photoshop and then going out to their young teenage girl audience saying it's completely natural. Like IDC if you do it for yourself BUT DONT SAY ITS REAL WHEN IT'S NOT." - SquareUnderwear69
Trash Talking Your Husband
"Stop inventing problems with your husband to share with 'the girls' just to fit in...No, mates, mine is my best friend and the love of my life and we are equal partners in marriage and child-raising." - Snooberry62
"Also, can we stop normalizing b****ing about your SO? I know so much about other people's partners that I feel like I shouldn’t know. They’re always painted in a bad light." - DatButt3000
Body Shaming
It's no secret that plus-size women are often bullied for their size and now "skinny shaming" has become a problem too, both of which are often exacerbated by social media.
"I hate how 'Plus size women are so admirable' but then people s**t on a girl for being too skinny. I understand overweight individuals get a lot of hate too but there seems to be a lot more support for overweight women than underweight women." - ABeeBox
Skincare And Acne
Acne is typically associated with being a problem that teenagers have to deal with, but many adults know the struggle as well.
"People who know nothing about my skin and the products I use trying to tell me how to get rid of my acne. A lot of people can't seem to grasp that everyone's skin is different and what works for them won't work for everyone." - GuestInevitable122
And Finally...
"We can't keep taking this lack of functioning pockets lying down. IT'S TIME TO RISE UP FOR REAL POCKETS, LADIES!" - aGrlHasNoUsername
"My wedding dress had pockets. Everyone was all "ooh, lovely so lovely". Then I shoved my hands down in ma pockets and they all lost their minds! Everything should have pockets!!" - Publandlady
